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hi all,
Richard and I are working through a rough patch at the moment. We are getting there.
My RA is awful at the moment and he is being very lovely and supportive, Im trying to adjust while he works through what he has got to.
Appreciate everyones kind support.
Jenni xxhow to be a velvet bulldoser
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hi Jenni,
sorry to hear things aren't so good for you right now,
sending ((((( Big Hugs )))))
Suzanne x
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Praying for you to get through this Jenni.
Love and hugs,
Doreen xx
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Hi Jenni So sorry to hear things aren't brilliant at mo. Thinking of you Love Julie  x Good advice is best followed by the art of listening
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Thoughts are with you Jenni Lyn x
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Thinking of you both Jenni and hoping you start to feel a little better and life is kinder to you. You deserve a bit of space and peace xx Ailsa
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Hi Jenny thinking of you and Richard . I hope things improve for you both soon .
Kathleen Mc. x
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Special thoughts and prayers to you and Richard. I hope you start to feel a little better soon.
Jackie
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Thinking of you Jenni, look after yourselves.
Take care
Bevxx
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 YES I'VE CHANGED, PAIN DOES THAT TO PEOPLE.
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Hi Jenni
Having the same problem at the moment.My other half says he can't handle my RA anymore.
Poppyxxx
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Hi Poppy Bear with it! This disease is hard for us to understand but very difficult for our families and friends to get their heads round. NRAS have some useful publications and in particular A Guide to Rheumatoid Arthritis. You may already have seen this but it may be worth letting your partner have a look as it explains some of the questions that are asked. Everyone is different and each has their own way of dealing with things. For us all and our families it is usually a case of having to adapt and adjust to living with the condition whilst maintaining some essence of 'normality'. This isn't meant to sound condescending in any way but having lived with RA for nearly 23 years I have come to accept and largely ignore people's intolerances of the condition. At the end of the day you are the one living with the disease ... Hope things improve for you both soon, Lyn x
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Hi Jenni,
This topic is very close to my heart at the moment.
Thinking of you.
Anne x
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Me too! Is it the time of year? Or is it because I'm even more impossible to live with?
Please find this little story funny, its meant to be!
Poor lad's always in the doghouse, he can't do anything right and I'm such an ungrateful cow. Take this morning, its my birthday, he's bought me a lovely cashmere blanket, I don't want a blanket I want sparkly dancing shoes and glittery hotpants, I'm 45 not 85, I'm in tears, he's going to work, I need to do some work but my hands are hurting, I'm frustrated, he's bewildered, its no wonder our relationships suffer. I've never been on such a roller coaster in my whole life, when will the ride end and we can catch our breath and laugh about it? Oh yes, just remembered that's not going to happen. So its his birthday in 2 weeks time so a chance to get those hotpants, we're the same size! No, what about a day's car hire in an classic e-type jag, always fancied doing that, so better sort it out myself then!
Hope you're all rolling on the floor by now, even when everything seems like its falling apart its good to laugh. Good luck to all of you with rough patches and if I don't get any birthday cake I think we may have another rough patch this evening!
Sara
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Hi Jenni,
Hope things get better for you soon you deserve it.
I often look back an think why did i say and do that, that isn't me but this blasted condition puts us in that place.
Sara-R you did make me laugh and yes your right I have found to laugh together is the answer. Hope you enjoyed your Birthday cake? xx
sue v
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Hello Jennie
Yes we all have disagreements. I hope it all blows over soon/ Thinking of you
Sara
HA HA yes brilliant can relate to that all the way
rose
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Hi Jenni, Sorry to hear things are rough for you at the moment, try to keep your chin up and make time to have an evening each week where it's just time for yourselves. Get the little one off to bed and tell your son to clean his room or find something to do in it. Then you and Richard have a nice meal together, Tesco has some really fancy ones with a special dessert and a bottle of wine, lovely and inexpensive. It's so easy to get wrapped up in things, but it's so easy put right. Richard has been your rock, make time for togetherness it is so important. Thinking about you Lorna x
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things are getting better. spent some time each evening with richard just chatting things through. I think the pressure of living life with our adoptive children and the egg shells walking of crappy ra has taken its toll.
thanks for the kind support.
Marriage work is hard but important work.
Jenni xxhow to be a velvet bulldoser
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Hi Jenni,
So pleased things are getting better.
Also living on eggshells at the moment with my fosterchild, he is having to face a lot of changes in his life and unfortunately we are the ones who have to cope with the backlash.
No wonder we sometimes have to put our partners last in the queue.
All the best
Anne x
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Jenni, so pleased things are getting better for you.
Yes I did get my birthday cake thanks Sue and we've made up.
I sent Dave a really apologetic text saying sorry for being such a cow and the lovely man decided that I wasn't and it was just me who thought I was! What would I do without him?
Sara
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